Monday, May 18, 2009

Touching! YAY or NAY?

GREAT quote from Tori Spelling! I can sooooo relate (the the 1st part anyway)! And I worry about the 2nd part! I am liable to SLAP SOMEONE :) ha

"During both pregnancies, people touched my belly a lot. I would never do that to a pregnant woman—it's a personal thing. And if I did, I'd say, 'Your belly is so cute, can I touch it?' But when fans do it, I couldn't say, 'Please don't touch,' because then it would be 'What a bitch!' At a certain point, I just decided that [my second baby] Stella was getting a lot of love in there. After I'd given birth to Stella, some woman at the market grabbed my belly and asked when I was due. When she had the flab in her hand, she realized her mistake. And the first time I went out after I had Liam, the paparazzi were around and I remember trying to hold my stomach in, even though my muscles were shot to hell, because it's not like they want a story, 'Look at the happy couple, they just had a baby' they want, 'Do you see her stomach? We thought she already had the baby.' But I always say the weeklies build you up to tear you down. It's a funny cycle. The week before they were asking, 'Is she too thin?' they showed a picture of me in a bikini on the beach saying I looked great."


- Tori Spelling tells Cookie magazine

18 comments:

Dollface said...

Oo I read this I think in People... Is it ok if I touch my best friends belly though? And say hi unborn baby?? Should I ask her first too... dilemmas!! xxoo

The Pink Potpourri said...

so far, that hasn't been too much of an issue for me...probably because i'm not big enough yet. i still tend to automatically slap hands that reach for my belly, but they have mostly been the hands of my mom and sisters :) i'm not sure how i'll react to other people!

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

I couldn't live the life of someone famous.

Krystyn said...

Definitely ask first.

Don't know what, but even after having my own kids, I still gravitate to other preggo bellies!

Tara Gibson said...

i think people should so ask first. I dont understand why people invade preggo women's VERY personal space?!?

Adventures in Newlywed said...

I agree, people should ask first...it's kind of a strange invasion of your privacy though. I wouldn't feel bad about saying, "Sorry, but no. He/she has been moving around all day, and just stopped, so I'd rather not take the chance of starting he/she up again..."

Danielle (Life with the Hewitt Family) said...

It drove me crazy when people touched my belly...that was my personal space. I eventually got used to it because a few co-workers did it all the time...I didn't know how to say not to nicely.

Emily said...

If the person is random.. ask first.. family.. close friends.. touch away.. I want them to be able to share in the joy too and it doesnt mind me one bit.. but randoms.. they bug when they touch...:)
Like if i saw you.. I would say hi lil baby beanie I love you:) and touch:)

midnight macaroons said...

One afternoon I decided to treat my VERY prego sister to lunch. She was complaining about how strangers would not ask before reaching over to touch her stomach (as if she was open season). She went on to say, "If I wasn't prego they wouldn't do it all but now I feel all these hands coming at me and I hate it."

Seriously, not even 2 minutes later a random woman walking by stopped and reached for my sis's prego stomach. Just as she reached for my sister I began rubbing the woman’s stomach. The woman jumped back appalled. I said, "How do you like a stranger rubbing your tummy?” She turned 100 shades of red and quickly walked away. And yes, I did get a lot of stares like I was being a total BEE-ACH. But I was protecting my sister and didn’t care what they thought. People don’t even strike up a conversation first. It would be different if you had an established relationship but to reach over and rub someone you don’t know? So not cute!

Pretty Personal Gifts said...

Never never never touch a prego's belly. Never.

Prissy Southern Prep said...

So NOT ok, in my book anyway!

luckeelady said...

I don't guess it bothers me much when people touch my belly. I don't think anyone has really reached for my gut yet with this pregnancy, of course I'm only 17 weeks.

As for a stranger, I think that would weird me out. I think if someone was to do it randomly I may just slap their hand away or do like midnight did and rub the strangers belly. They may think twice before they do it again, or will ask next time. If someone asks politely, I may be more apt to let them. After all I am proud of my belly and whats inside.

Although I love other pregnant bellies and think they are so adorable, I don't feel the need to fondel them, especially strangers.

Another topic, asking if you're pregnant... If you're bout ready to pop that may be a topic of conversation but to be a stranger and want to ask just to be nosey, that's rude. Some people may have already had the baby and it brings down their self esteem. I try to keep my mouth shut when all possible, I tend to stick my foot in it.

Mojito Maven said...

oh god. add another thing to the list of why i don't want kids haha.

A Walk With The... said...

NOOOO TOUCHY!!! NO! Don't do it!!

Seriously it FREAKS me out. What the heck is wrong with people?!?!?! I am dreading the day that someone asks me when I'm due after I deliver...I will cry ON THE SPOT!

Btw - I was in target this weekend and these two chicks wondered into the maternity section where I was and once they had realized their mistake they said, "Oh dear we are in the wrong section. This is for the big girls." UMMMMM WTFFFFFF?!?

*~! megs !~* said...

big negative on the touching. i am a freak about my personal space. i can't even think about this without feeling my throat close up!!

Sarah Danielle: Jeune Marie said...

She is so great - makes me want to actually read her books!

Gwen said...

I only touch the bellies of my close friends or family. LOL!! I always ask first and I never linger. That was always the weird part for me when an old lady would talk to me while her hands were all over me. PERSONAL SPACE PLEASE!! XOXO

thomas and christi said...

I'm 20 weeks and def. have a small belly. Several girls i know have touched, fine by me. A strange man, "slap". I don't think people think of touching your belly as touching you, they think of the baby in there. I haven't known many men to reach out though, women's instinct is to touch cute little baby, or baby bump! Its a bizarre cultural thing i guess. Cause no one would touch an unpregnant belly, right?